Liz Benigno

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The green-eyed monster

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Darling senior girls going off to college~ 

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you know that girl you envied in high school?  The one with the perfect hair, or body, or house, or vacations, or grades, or boyfriend, or family, or faith, or... I could go on and on but you get the point.  Her. The girl that made you feel less.  Well, guess what?  She will be there when you get to college.  New name, new something awesome, but still there.  

And when you're 52ish guess what?  She. Is. Still. There.  Envy is a terrible thing.  It makes us second guess ourselves, feel small and insecure, feel petty and spiteful toward others and wish for different. We have advertisements telling us that we are beautiful, our parents, teachers, coaches and friends have all told us how utterly fabulous we are, just the way we are, and yet we don't believe them.  Why not?

Because we lend our ear to the Liar.  We choose to give him our ear, allow him to whisper all sorts of terrible, tiny, ugly, lies about us and we listen. And we believe it to be true.  From the Liar.  How ironic. The Liar knows just when to swoop in and wound. 

Here's the harder good news.. envy calls for confession. Envy is born from the desire for selfish ambition, self-promotion and covetousness. Yikes, hard words but true.  Why do I want the flashier car?  The smooth skin of botox and fillers? The better clothes?  Yuck.  When the Liar starts to whisper to you about why you are less, and if only you had more, stop him in his tracks.  Call him out, speak truth about yourself to yourself and confess to Jesus that you are coveting (fill in the blank).  Just own the awful confession of envy.  Don't rationalize it or justify it.  Sweet relief is waiting for you.  Envy has a funny way of rearing its head so get really good at recognizing it, confessing it and moving on.

And you know that girl we were talking about?  Cut her some slack. The Liar is using her to get to you. 

Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.

Ephesians 6:11